Category: Dating and Relationships
I'm interested to know of experiences had by some females out here. What has it been like when meeting your significant others parents'? Were you particularly anxious, or was it not a big deal? I'm also interested to see if you've any suggestions? I'm aware you can't pick whom your children see/mary, but all the same.
Do they know your blind, do they have any opinions about blind people, is he blind, and do you bathe?
Oh Jared, how I always look foward to seeing a board post from you. *smile*
Actually, Jared does raise a couple of good points. Believe me, parents views on blindness can really effect how they view you.
To answer your question, I've had a few different experiences. I've been in four serious relationships. Three out of the four families of my significant others have really liked me. Yes, I was a little nervous when I met the various sets of parents, but I just made sure to be extra polite and courteous, and come across as someone easy to talk to and get to know. Be prepared for lots of questions about yourself, your family, etc.
Only one instance did not go well, but I don't believe that was my fault. In the minds of this guy's parents, no girl would be good enough for their son, except for possibly the Virgin Mary herself. They also wanted a trophy wife for their son, and I could not, and never can be that for any man. That's also how I know that a parent's view on blindness can effect how they view you. This guy's parents thought I was too independent, and too curious about my surroundings.
So, hope some of that helps. Good luck to you.
meeting parents for me has always went pretty well. Just be polite and nice. Lol, my bf's parents are great now that I know them well. I went with his mom to get her tires fixed.
Anyway, just be polite without being overly sympering. Unless they're wackos, they shouldn't hate you, unless you don't bathe...
Meeting my significant other's parents and relatives was and still is uncomfortable. There's definitely a language barier, and when I come over, I sometimes just get handed something to eat without a word. His siblings are OK, I guess. There's no language barier there, but it's hard to know when to jump in during conversations. My thing is, I won't speak unless I'm being spoken to. Wish I could speak their language to make things easier for them.
Just keep your cool, chill, be yourself and look the best you can. That's what I did, meeting Brian and sue, Kris's mum and dad for the first time as they helped him seek out all his belongings scattered in all 4 corners of the front room in our friends flat in Nottingham before we all piled in to probably the most knackered Peugeot 406 and trundled part way to Kris's place before stopping offf for this carvery roast dinner at a pub about halfway between Nottingham and Scunthorpe where they live. I reckon Sue had us married, getting our own place together and even the hypothetical knitting needles poised and ready from almost the instant she clapped eyes on me, lol. I was both, her baby and daughter-in-law from day 1. I'll never forget her introducing me to Kris's sister, Charlene, "meet your new sister-inlaw" springs to mind the moment I look back on the 2nd of December 2008, lol. Since then, they invited me for Christmas and were a smashing host and hostess in to the bargain, then, in March this year, they had me up to stay again for 6 weeks as I thought I might find more job/business opportunities up there than down here in Surrey, but alass, that wasn't to come about since they then sent me packing 3 weeks ago today so they could deccorate the bedrooms as they're hoping to sell up and move to a smaller house, lol, but they weren't really bothered how long I would've stuck around had it not been for the deccorating, bless them.
Jen.
wow, lots of experiences. both positive and negative, but all great advice. Yes, I do bathe, and am very conscious regarding my appearance. I'd have to say the most concerning aspect about this situation is the fact that my partner is his mother's only son, and yes, he is her baby boy.
Same with Kris. Kris and Charlene're Brian and Sue's two children, therefore, he's her only son and her hansome lad or hansome boy rather than her baby boy, lol.
Jen.
baby boy meaning first born, and only son.
So how did it go? Did the parrents embrace you as a member of the family, or try to stone the Heretic outsider witch to death?
Meeting my boyfriend's parents went well. I was myself. His mom was so happy he had met someone that he actually cared about. His parents also told me embarrassing stories about him and joked around about him, but I knew it was all in fun. Heck, I eventually started joking around with them! He was worried about his brother embarrassing him, but not the parents. As for blindness, they didn't have too many questions for me.
Haven't met them as of yet, but I'll let you know.